Hello, Scott! It's interesting that you wrote about nonchalance *and* chivalry in this newsletter! I looked chivalry up in the Merriam-Webser dict and they had this to say in the Did You Know section:
"Chivalry is dead, they say. The statement is indisputably true in at least one sense: the word chivalry first referred to medieval knights, as in “the king was accompanied by his chivalry,” and we're quite certain those knights are all long gone. But the word’s meaning has shifted since the 14th century, with other meanings joining the first over the years. Today, chivalry typically refers to an honorable and polite way of behaving, especially by men toward women. And when people say “chivalry is dead” they’re usually bemoaning either a perceived lack of good manners among those they encounter generally, or a dearth of men holding doors for appreciative women. The word came to English by way of French, and is ultimately from the Late Latin word caballārius, meaning “horseback rider, groom,” ancestor too of another term for a daring medieval gentleman-at-arms: cavalier. In a twist, the adjective form of cavalier is often used to describe someone who is overly nonchalant about important matters—not exactly chivalrous."
Personally, I do not mind when a man does small things like hold a door open for me, walk on the outside or nearest the road, or offer to pay for dinner. I also do these things with men. I am not sure I expect it but I do appreciate it when it happens.
Re the toilet seat - when I use a public washroom, if the seat is already up, I leave it up! If it's down, I leave it down. But I do ask that anyone who uses my own washroom to please put the seat AND lid down every time. ☺
Love love love the readings you shared with us from Enough As You Are!! (Maybe you can sign my copy the next time we see each other!)
I am from the older generation and appreciate kindness whenever it is shown. Likewise I feel better when I can give it back. The world revolves around give and take. Love and blessings can change the world.
To me, chivalry feels like kindness in action. I think it can co-exist peacefully with feminism. I do, however, wish chivalry was more gender-blind.
Thanks for that reflection, Glenda. I’m with you. 💜💙❤️
Hello, Scott! It's interesting that you wrote about nonchalance *and* chivalry in this newsletter! I looked chivalry up in the Merriam-Webser dict and they had this to say in the Did You Know section:
"Chivalry is dead, they say. The statement is indisputably true in at least one sense: the word chivalry first referred to medieval knights, as in “the king was accompanied by his chivalry,” and we're quite certain those knights are all long gone. But the word’s meaning has shifted since the 14th century, with other meanings joining the first over the years. Today, chivalry typically refers to an honorable and polite way of behaving, especially by men toward women. And when people say “chivalry is dead” they’re usually bemoaning either a perceived lack of good manners among those they encounter generally, or a dearth of men holding doors for appreciative women. The word came to English by way of French, and is ultimately from the Late Latin word caballārius, meaning “horseback rider, groom,” ancestor too of another term for a daring medieval gentleman-at-arms: cavalier. In a twist, the adjective form of cavalier is often used to describe someone who is overly nonchalant about important matters—not exactly chivalrous."
Personally, I do not mind when a man does small things like hold a door open for me, walk on the outside or nearest the road, or offer to pay for dinner. I also do these things with men. I am not sure I expect it but I do appreciate it when it happens.
Re the toilet seat - when I use a public washroom, if the seat is already up, I leave it up! If it's down, I leave it down. But I do ask that anyone who uses my own washroom to please put the seat AND lid down every time. ☺
Love love love the readings you shared with us from Enough As You Are!! (Maybe you can sign my copy the next time we see each other!)
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Big love and warm hugs xxoo
Thanks for the history listen. Interesting stuff! 💜❤️💙
I am from the older generation and appreciate kindness whenever it is shown. Likewise I feel better when I can give it back. The world revolves around give and take. Love and blessings can change the world.
“Love and blessings can change the world.” Beautifully put, Linda. 💙🙏💙