I believe that a person's humanity has different aspects to it, such as spiritual, emotional, and intellectual aspects. If I disagree with someone's political views (intellectual aspect), I'm sure I can find something to love about them in one of the other aspects of their humanity or in one of mine. And I will. A simple smile and the words "I feel differently." often work for me and have kept me grounded in love instead of inviting hostile confrontation.
Oh... I will be using your straw breathing technique on election day to help prevent an emotional meltdown. Thanks for that tool.
I wish the whole world could hear you. Your word “dehumanizing” and “shame” really grabbed me because I think this is happening everywhere in the way people speak as a way to find power within themselves. Yet, “humanizing” another is where we need to be and that’s a loving act. Of course, it’s not easy when it’s happening to you in the heat of the moment and finding a way to remain calm and neutral is work. Sometimes simply walking away is best and getting back in nature. I’m grateful you gave us a tool like the straw breath, which is quick and simple and I will definitely use this in the days ahead. Love this, Scott! xo
Thank you, Scott. Needed this. Man has the energy been rough out here lately. Sending back to you, multiplied, all the beautiful and loving energy you put into your words here. Big Love xoxoxo Jenn
Thank you for your thought inspiring words. I feel like this type of hateful rethoric has always been around and has spread by means of the internet and seems to be culminating during this election. I try my best not to get swept up in this political turmoil that has a grip on our country.
I know I can’t change the world but I can have a positive impact on my immediate surroundings. The way I treat people I come in direct contact with and the way I run my hospitality business is defined by the creation of an environment defined by harmony, kindness, respect and most of all love!
There is no room left for negativity, judgement or hate and the response of all guests is an immediate relief. The relief of not having to take a stand on politics or religion.
I hope they can take this feeling home with them and I do believe in the butterfly effect.
Today, I ordered four more copies of your book, “Enough As You Are,” and they are going to: Belgium, two to Ohio and one to California. 🥰 I have a feeling I’ll be buying and sending a few more. This book is truly a daily meditation on self love! What a gift.
I agree with Kevin Bobolsky - feelings of hate and outrage are part of the repetoire of being human, they inform us that something is very wrong - which on some level all of us know. In the same way we have been conditioned to see shame as a BAD thing but actually it has a very helpful function in ensuring certain taboo behaviours in the collective are met with some accountability. Possibly that is why things have got so bad because this hasn't happened enough with power holders, they have escaped accountability.
When we have been heavily shamed as children, we do not want to shame anyone else because we know what that feels like but sometimes that is the most appropriate action, as is outrage. How we wield these feelings with others by focussing on the behaviour rather than a character assasination is what might determine hypocrisy.... not sure...maybe ?? When people holding power over others abuse that power that has happened over and over against indigenous peoples, women, minorities, marginalised communities, economic victims, shame is an option to appeal to the buried humanity within the abusers, buried beneath layers of entitlement. For us to feel shame because we feel the urge to shame someone for behaviour that violates humanity and desecrates our home, the earth - that is simply self flagellation that we all have been conditioned to do in order to have the status quo prevail. And maybe that is how many of us relate to the feelings of chaos and conflict that exist currently - we just want it to go away. But another possibility is that this is a necessary exposure of the hidden and the shadows make for uncomfortable viewing before we as a collective can make more informed choices going forward. I appreciate your video in bringing this concept of shame to my attention.
I appreciate such a thoughtful reflection, Yinchi. I don't see shame as a healer. I don't see how it moves us forward to a more loving society. I think holding people accountable for their actions is important, as is speaking truth to power. I just believe we can do everything we feel called to do with a bit more compassion and empathy. With more love. This, as I see it, is how we can create more of the kind of world we'd like to see. So much LOVE to you! ❤️🙏❤️
perhaps you are focussed more on social media comments rather than as I was thinking more about child abuse, war, genocide, racial torment ..And perhaps we hold a different understanding of what Love actually means in practice - Whatever your position is, I have found it a fruitful exercise in my own understanding about shame not necessarily being a "bad" thing and where I believe it is essential for humanity to change...I even wrote a column today trying to flesh that out for myself. Thank you for the opportunity to pull the thread on the vest of shame I was still inhabiting - it was good to see it differently
I believe that a person's humanity has different aspects to it, such as spiritual, emotional, and intellectual aspects. If I disagree with someone's political views (intellectual aspect), I'm sure I can find something to love about them in one of the other aspects of their humanity or in one of mine. And I will. A simple smile and the words "I feel differently." often work for me and have kept me grounded in love instead of inviting hostile confrontation.
Oh... I will be using your straw breathing technique on election day to help prevent an emotional meltdown. Thanks for that tool.
Sending peace and lots of love.
I appreciate your big heart, Glenda. Lots of love back to you. 💜💜💜
I really like that response, “I feel differently.” Thank you.
Thank You for your loving thoughts...
Hate is as human as Love...
I believe Forgiveness is our greatest power.
The halo above your head during your discussion was very iconic and proof you truly are an angel
And here I thought I was a devil. ;)
Love you brother! 💜
I wish the whole world could hear you. Your word “dehumanizing” and “shame” really grabbed me because I think this is happening everywhere in the way people speak as a way to find power within themselves. Yet, “humanizing” another is where we need to be and that’s a loving act. Of course, it’s not easy when it’s happening to you in the heat of the moment and finding a way to remain calm and neutral is work. Sometimes simply walking away is best and getting back in nature. I’m grateful you gave us a tool like the straw breath, which is quick and simple and I will definitely use this in the days ahead. Love this, Scott! xo
Nice reflection, Vicki. Yes to humanizing one another! Big love. 💜🙏💜
Thank you, Scott. Needed this. Man has the energy been rough out here lately. Sending back to you, multiplied, all the beautiful and loving energy you put into your words here. Big Love xoxoxo Jenn
So much love to you, Jenn. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. Thank you. I am so grateful for you. Sending you so much love through this portal 💞
Thank you, Monica. Sending you so much love right back, dearest. 💜🙏💜
Thank you for your thought inspiring words. I feel like this type of hateful rethoric has always been around and has spread by means of the internet and seems to be culminating during this election. I try my best not to get swept up in this political turmoil that has a grip on our country.
I know I can’t change the world but I can have a positive impact on my immediate surroundings. The way I treat people I come in direct contact with and the way I run my hospitality business is defined by the creation of an environment defined by harmony, kindness, respect and most of all love!
There is no room left for negativity, judgement or hate and the response of all guests is an immediate relief. The relief of not having to take a stand on politics or religion.
I hope they can take this feeling home with them and I do believe in the butterfly effect.
You are a shining example of one who puts good and joy and beauty into our world. Keep shining, my friend! xoxo 💜💜💜
Scott I understand what you’re saying. I’ve had to really pay attention to when I’m not being loving.
It is a very lonely time because of all of the judgment.
I can see in your eyes that you are hurting. I honestly love you and you deserve Big Love!!
Today, I ordered four more copies of your book, “Enough As You Are,” and they are going to: Belgium, two to Ohio and one to California. 🥰 I have a feeling I’ll be buying and sending a few more. This book is truly a daily meditation on self love! What a gift.
I agree with Kevin Bobolsky - feelings of hate and outrage are part of the repetoire of being human, they inform us that something is very wrong - which on some level all of us know. In the same way we have been conditioned to see shame as a BAD thing but actually it has a very helpful function in ensuring certain taboo behaviours in the collective are met with some accountability. Possibly that is why things have got so bad because this hasn't happened enough with power holders, they have escaped accountability.
When we have been heavily shamed as children, we do not want to shame anyone else because we know what that feels like but sometimes that is the most appropriate action, as is outrage. How we wield these feelings with others by focussing on the behaviour rather than a character assasination is what might determine hypocrisy.... not sure...maybe ?? When people holding power over others abuse that power that has happened over and over against indigenous peoples, women, minorities, marginalised communities, economic victims, shame is an option to appeal to the buried humanity within the abusers, buried beneath layers of entitlement. For us to feel shame because we feel the urge to shame someone for behaviour that violates humanity and desecrates our home, the earth - that is simply self flagellation that we all have been conditioned to do in order to have the status quo prevail. And maybe that is how many of us relate to the feelings of chaos and conflict that exist currently - we just want it to go away. But another possibility is that this is a necessary exposure of the hidden and the shadows make for uncomfortable viewing before we as a collective can make more informed choices going forward. I appreciate your video in bringing this concept of shame to my attention.
I appreciate such a thoughtful reflection, Yinchi. I don't see shame as a healer. I don't see how it moves us forward to a more loving society. I think holding people accountable for their actions is important, as is speaking truth to power. I just believe we can do everything we feel called to do with a bit more compassion and empathy. With more love. This, as I see it, is how we can create more of the kind of world we'd like to see. So much LOVE to you! ❤️🙏❤️
perhaps you are focussed more on social media comments rather than as I was thinking more about child abuse, war, genocide, racial torment ..And perhaps we hold a different understanding of what Love actually means in practice - Whatever your position is, I have found it a fruitful exercise in my own understanding about shame not necessarily being a "bad" thing and where I believe it is essential for humanity to change...I even wrote a column today trying to flesh that out for myself. Thank you for the opportunity to pull the thread on the vest of shame I was still inhabiting - it was good to see it differently