Hi Chrisann, I loved this video so much and it's timely. Can you please explain what you meant about having "this page earmarked" in your copy of "Enough as You Are"? and is this topic "How to have the tough conversations..." discussed in the book? Thanks!
Wow, Scott. Thank you so much for this video! I am currently going through couples counseling with my partner and I believe that not having the tough conversations is part of what got us here.
Something that really resonated with me is when you said to not be so rigid in the way you have the conversation. To be more fluid and really be with yourself and the other person and that moment. I am realizing I have a tendency to try and plot out exactly what I’m going to say and then anticipate what the other will say. I realize I do this as a way to try and protect myself, because I am afraid that I won’t be heard or met. But coming from the energy of fear is the opposite of love and is in fact sabotaging my efforts to be heard and seen.
I got so much from this video and so appreciate your message. I always feel your messages are so aligned with what I am needing to hear from the Universe. Thank you for being that messenger. Big love to you! ❤️
Hi Scott, it’s wonderful to see and hear you . Although the connection always feels there it is refreshing to re connect through sight , sound and word. A picture tells a thousand words ?
I have recently been tuned into this subject in what feels like a concentrated way of late. I have noticed that when in a group dynamic these difficult conversations can be side lined and scapegoating or shifting or ignoring the messages has lead to me removing myself from situations to enable things to be heard in silence.
When words are not heard sometimes I find silence allows for the void to be felt.
This is done with the aim of compassion and not adding to ‘the drama’ or being triggered to a point of hurting oneself or knowing that ‘being there’ will not add anything positive only negative.
I recognise that this can be avoidance and passive but have found it a good option when difficult conversations are not ready to be heard.
It is as you say about timing and compassion and difficult conversations will most likely happen when the timing is right for everyone.
Sometimes we have to wait for all involved to be ready to hear and speak.
I find that I am hesitant to initiate those hard conversations because I am afraid of the other person's reaction. This is especially true if they are extra sensitive or if they anger quickly. To me it feels like fear of the unknown mixed with loss of control.
Also, I understand that it may take some time for each of us to heal if the conversation is a difficult one.
Oh, it's so nice to see and hear you again, Scott! I've missed you!
Of the toughest stuff for me; saying what I want/need to say to people close to me. I am not an argumentative person and I don’t debate well - a lot of people in my life are strong, hard and hot headed. I end up feeling overly whelmed
And my clarity of thought and communication gets thwarted - but I am
Wow! Is this video timely! I've been putting off so many conversations, procrastinating about them, rehearsing them in my head, ruminating on regret (for not speaking up) and waking up at 3 or 4 AM over them. Scott, you give so many good reasons why it's important and how to speak from a place of sincerity and honesty. I'm dealing with someone who is quick to anger and arrogant with little empathy so I can feel a tad justified in putting hard conversations off, but it's hurting me in the long run. So, I must find a way. There are way too many elephants of indignities in the room. Conversations grounded in mutual kindness, courtesy and respect would be a civil wonderland to me. Your video has given me some strength to proceed with a few of them. This reminded me of a quote I recently read by Ryan Holiday in his book "Right Now, Right Thing" where he says "Let us live in a way that makes us proud. Let us act during the day in a way that allows us to sleep at night." Standing in my own righteous courage and light is much better than feeling diminished by the cowardice of fear.
Congratulations! I am so proud of you for having the courage to have difficult conversations! They are not easy.
I have this page earmarked in my copy of Enough as You Are. ❤
Big love, friend. ❤
xxoo
Hi Chrisann, I loved this video so much and it's timely. Can you please explain what you meant about having "this page earmarked" in your copy of "Enough as You Are"? and is this topic "How to have the tough conversations..." discussed in the book? Thanks!
Wow, Scott. Thank you so much for this video! I am currently going through couples counseling with my partner and I believe that not having the tough conversations is part of what got us here.
Something that really resonated with me is when you said to not be so rigid in the way you have the conversation. To be more fluid and really be with yourself and the other person and that moment. I am realizing I have a tendency to try and plot out exactly what I’m going to say and then anticipate what the other will say. I realize I do this as a way to try and protect myself, because I am afraid that I won’t be heard or met. But coming from the energy of fear is the opposite of love and is in fact sabotaging my efforts to be heard and seen.
I got so much from this video and so appreciate your message. I always feel your messages are so aligned with what I am needing to hear from the Universe. Thank you for being that messenger. Big love to you! ❤️
Hi Scott, it’s wonderful to see and hear you . Although the connection always feels there it is refreshing to re connect through sight , sound and word. A picture tells a thousand words ?
I have recently been tuned into this subject in what feels like a concentrated way of late. I have noticed that when in a group dynamic these difficult conversations can be side lined and scapegoating or shifting or ignoring the messages has lead to me removing myself from situations to enable things to be heard in silence.
When words are not heard sometimes I find silence allows for the void to be felt.
This is done with the aim of compassion and not adding to ‘the drama’ or being triggered to a point of hurting oneself or knowing that ‘being there’ will not add anything positive only negative.
I recognise that this can be avoidance and passive but have found it a good option when difficult conversations are not ready to be heard.
It is as you say about timing and compassion and difficult conversations will most likely happen when the timing is right for everyone.
Sometimes we have to wait for all involved to be ready to hear and speak.
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I find that I am hesitant to initiate those hard conversations because I am afraid of the other person's reaction. This is especially true if they are extra sensitive or if they anger quickly. To me it feels like fear of the unknown mixed with loss of control.
Also, I understand that it may take some time for each of us to heal if the conversation is a difficult one.
Oh, it's so nice to see and hear you again, Scott! I've missed you!
This is some
Of the toughest stuff for me; saying what I want/need to say to people close to me. I am not an argumentative person and I don’t debate well - a lot of people in my life are strong, hard and hot headed. I end up feeling overly whelmed
And my clarity of thought and communication gets thwarted - but I am
Working on it 😊
Scott, Thanks for a sharing a great message today. Lots of take aways and truths received and what we can reflect on!
Wow! Is this video timely! I've been putting off so many conversations, procrastinating about them, rehearsing them in my head, ruminating on regret (for not speaking up) and waking up at 3 or 4 AM over them. Scott, you give so many good reasons why it's important and how to speak from a place of sincerity and honesty. I'm dealing with someone who is quick to anger and arrogant with little empathy so I can feel a tad justified in putting hard conversations off, but it's hurting me in the long run. So, I must find a way. There are way too many elephants of indignities in the room. Conversations grounded in mutual kindness, courtesy and respect would be a civil wonderland to me. Your video has given me some strength to proceed with a few of them. This reminded me of a quote I recently read by Ryan Holiday in his book "Right Now, Right Thing" where he says "Let us live in a way that makes us proud. Let us act during the day in a way that allows us to sleep at night." Standing in my own righteous courage and light is much better than feeling diminished by the cowardice of fear.